NC Hawaii Winter Camp Presenters, Program & Schedule

Winter Camp Program for 2020

Gratitone (Patrick Noble), Amara Karuna, 

Sumati Sparks, Art Lashbrook and Marylea Toher, 

Ray Adastra, Clarity Berinstein, JJ (Janice Johnson),

Mystophur (Christopher Fuelling),  Audrey Ichida, Aniko Willoughby,

Tracy Matfin,  Kalama Becker, 

Anjalisa Aitken, Gary Garrett and more!

(See below the events for Presenters' bios....)

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Opening Circle / Orientation / Connecting and Intros

(Various Presenters):

We welcome each other into the camp community and go over the nuts-and-bolts of camp culture and logistics. Let's find out who's here and what we have to offer each other! We'll spend much of the time moving around, meeting new folks and deepening existing relationships.

Growing Your Connections -
Fun with the land, yourself & each other:
A Sensual Tour of La'akea  with Tracy Matfin

Learn about how we work with nature to create a beautiful and functional environment on our farm. We will walk along our paths and find lots of berries, flowers and leaves to nibble on the way.

Early Morning Yoga and Meditation:
A space will be available for this, led by camp attendees,
as desired. 

Morning Dance and Pod Meetings: 

We start each morning with a time to dance!  And then meet in small groups to check in about your experiences at camp.

Morning Circle:
An important part of camp!  We start each camp morning with a circle to re-connect and learn about what's happening that day at camp. We offer appreciations to each other. This is a time to express any concerns or needs of a logistical nature. Announcements are made about karma yoga duties, the day's schedule, and descriptions of the workshops.


The Forum:

is a group process developed at the German community ZEGG to provide a stage for whatever is happening inside the person: one's true motivations, deep feelings, ideas and emotions. The Forum helps facilitate transparency, sharing and clarifying unsolved situations of daily life, and it can be a catalyst for one's own personal growth.

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Creating Community, Intro to New Culture and Healthy Boundaries

with Tracy Matfin and Ray Cohen

How many of us say "yes" to things we don't actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection? 

 In many ways, "no" is the most daring and intimate response possible. If I can hear your "no", I can trust your "yes."  

We'll practice the skills of self-awareness, transparency, and non-attachment, which help us find the space of mutually desired connection that is available with each person. We tend to look at boundary setting as ways we cannot connect and rarely see them as having real potential for deeper connection. 

This workshops intention is to free us up to have boundaries without judgement of our selves or others. 

It is also designed to help us embrace diversity, and difference and creatively interact with it authentically.

An important and fun orientation to our basic guidelines on relating to each other during camp.  

If you are a new camper, this is a required event so we are all on the same page!

Open Sessions
Open Sessions are an opportunity for campers to convene dialogue groups on topics they've been wanting to explore, or create group massages, or do a music jam together.
Safer Sex Information and Conversations,

 and Entering the Temple-

Amara Karuna and Ray Cohen

In a sex-positive and body-honoring community, we have a responsibility to educate ourselves on how to keep ourselves safe while having fun. We?ll go over the latest medical information, and practice talking with community and prospective partners about these issues.

We will explore the guidelines for participating in the Temple space, where we can be openly sensual in a respectful and safe environment.  If you have never been to a temple at camp, this workshop is required in order to enter the space.

Going to the temple is completely voluntary.  It might include spending time with one or more friends in an intimate way, or sharing in a workshop that has to do with healing, massage, etc.  There are guidelines for sharing this space in a way that is safe and comfortable for everyone, and following these guidelines is a requirement for all temple participants.

Temple space opening events will take place for the first 1/2 hour every night. including massage and sensual meditations by Amara, Mystophur, Audrey, and others.

Men's Circle, and Gender Fluid circle, and Women's Circle:
A Sacred Circle & Check-in for people who enjoy meeting in gender groups, where every persons voice and experience is heard, valued, honored. Where every one speaks uninterrupted and who is held by the group in a solid, trust-building container.
Playful, loving, and gentle exercises to get us more and more comfortable with fully inhabiting our bodies.

9-Minute Dates

with JJ

Have you met someone here you'd like to know more about, or noticed someone you'd like to meet, or someone with whom you want to go deeper, or there's someone with whom you'd like to have a clearing?  Then 9-Minute Dates are a chance to spend just 9-minutes with a person.  During the first 2 minutes, you agree on what you want to do for the next 7 minutes.  

After the 7 minutes, together you have another 2 minutes to reflect on how this interaction was for each of you.  All this in a space that is held by the facilitators who stand ready to assist should you request.  

What is not to happen in this space?  Naked genitals - save that for the Temple space where all present are in agreement.  Please keep your genitals covered so we can all feel free of guarding from genital contact.  Genital touching - your own or someone else's. Please save such interactions for Temple space where agreements are in place.  Gawking at others not on a date with you. 

What can happen in this space?  A conversation, listening, cuddling, kissing, embracing, yab/yum, energy exchange, exploring one another's bodies without genital touch, singing, careful body movement (being aware of others in the room), and so on....

So how does this work?  At the appointed time (and please... not before), cards and writing instruments will be distributed and you will then have a period of time to invite others to join you on a date.  You will have X spots to fill.  It's important to be sure you and the person who agree to have a date have the same spot open.

How do I ask?  Preferably, you approach someone and say "I'd like to have a date with you (and feel free to tell them why), would you like to have a date with me?"  If they say yes, then proceed to see if you each have a matching time available.  If you do not find a matching time, you may want to agree to have a 9-minute date, without the space being held by others, at another time such as a free-time or during a meal, or you may not.  If they say no, say "thank you" and move one.  No explanation is necessary.  

How NOT to ask:  "Hey, do you have #3 open?"  

What happens if I don't fill up my 'date card'?  There will be an 'Open' area designated for people who do not have dates during a particular slot, and in that space you may find others who wish to make date with you, or you may find others who wish to observe with you, or you may choose to observe by yourself.  Observing can be very enlightening - not gawking.... observing.  Some people choose to set no dates, and only use the 'Open' area.  

Some of you may feel challenged by this experience. Embrace that.  Take risks.  Follow your existing patterns and then see how that goes.  If you feel particularly challenged, please reach out to facilitator.


TANTRA DANCE - Dancing into Connection, Play and Intimacy

With Art Lashbrook and Marylea Tohler

Experience yummy, blissful, sensual & intimate dance connections, instruction, practice & play. 

Learn HOW to: 

1. Create a safe space 

2. Move confidently as one with a partner 

3. Express intimacy through dance 

4. Add romance & sensuality to partner dancing. 

We start with connection exercises, then teach/review some basic Essential Dance Partnering Skills, then teach/demonstrate how to bring intimacy & sensuality to partner dancing, then practice & play with yummy, sensual dance music.

This is a combination of training in the skills of Tantra Dance plus practice time to enjoy connecting deeper with others.

Clothing optional and sensual touch involved.


The  Em-Powering use of NVC (compassionate communication) in our "Pillow Talk"!

With Raydiance Grace

Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of NVC has said that the basic premise of NVC is to make "our life more wonderful"! What could make our life more wonderful is getting our sexual pleasure & desires fulfilled. Come to this playshop & learn both verbal & non-verbal skills/ strategies to get our needs & do-able requests met with clarity/kindness on our part & enthusiastic/joyful response from our partners.

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Authentic Relating Games
with Patrick Noble
AR games involve leaning into an edge of vulnerability (with consent) and maybe sharing that which we are disinclined to speak about. It’s not uncommon for a new awareness to arise during the course of a game. Awareness is the start. 
From there, the healing is to transform, transmute, and let go. 
I love AR games because they are fun, dynamic, smile-inducing, and both light hearted and potentially encompassing deeper work!

  Flow Dance

with Aniko Willoughby 

A self connected dance that opens us to merge with others in a very grounded, transformative and gentle way.

 Yoni Power Ceremony 
with Aniko Willoughby
 In this fun, healing, and soulful ceremony, we will have the opportunity to explore the power and beauty of our vaginas! Most women never have their yonis observed outside of a sexual or medical setting. And most heterosexual women have never had the chance to just check out with curiosity and wonder a variety of yonis outside of watching porn. 
 It’s time for change! In this playshop of pussy Empowerment, the yoni will be adored and celebrated in all shapes and sizes. We will have the chance to gaze in wonderment at other women’s pussies, and will also have a chance to have our pussy adored as the divine temple that it is. This is for female identified humans only and has been requested by several camp participants.

 Erotic Story 
with Audrey Ichida
 Audrey’s erotic story telling is designed to welcome people into play places and help people feel comfortable with the natural flow of their sexual energies. By speaking story Audrey involves people who might not be physically interacting with others and connects the field of the space. The people present are brought together in a shared experience that is both erotic and safe. Initially the group offers ideas, or seeds for a story, like setting or fantasy situations. Audrey chooses one of these and through improvisation brings the scene to life in intimate juicy detail. The stories may be part performance art and part poetry. Because each story is crafted based on the collective energy of the group, no two stories are the same. 
 Regardless of the story prompt the principles of trust, respect, consent, and compassion are upheld. Audrey speaks into being what we wish we could be in our sexual interactions.
A Unified Theory of Desire
with Mystophur
PRESENTATION: This theory of desire and sexual dynamics visualizes both arousal and polarization without value judgements or gender essentialism to allow us to objectively observe how we navigate erotic experiences. It further proposes that desire is intersubjective, individual, and intentional: 1) the cultural field provides much of the symbolic terrain in which our sexuality operates, 2) yet we fundamentally navigate it individually (via our own psyche and internal physical and neurological systems) and thus, 3) given this knowledge, we can become both more aware of our patterns and biases and consciously co-create the erotic experiences we choose.

 We then invite participants to join our ongoing research on this topic by testing the theory: first they chart their own patterns; then they try on some of our practical, embodied performance techniques that manifest the principles; and finally they create short performative scenes where they deliberately employ this theory for both their own personal experience and reflection by the group.


Play Your Desire & Quadraphonic Temple Playscape

Temple Opening Night

  • Play Your Desire: is a set of ice-breaking exercises that embolden expression and raise the room’s erotic energy, with Mystophur
 The Science of Oxytocin: 
how love and cuddles immediately reduce stress and anxiety
With Clarity Be
 Oxytocin has been a huge part of my personal and academic research on emotional health, embodiment, and even spiritual experiences. This workshop would spend some time describing the science and psychology of the famed "love molecule," and then the personal experiences I have had in recovering from binge eating disorder, depression, and anxiety by upping my cuddles and intimacy intake. I will discuss the social relevance of a community where individuals have an abundance of oxytocin, which can buffer against emotional breakdown, competitiveness, and aggression. I will guide participants in several activities to quickly and effectively get an "oxytocin boost," including cuddling, contact dance, and more.
 Movement With Music 
with Gratitone (Patrick Noble)
Ecstatic-dance for everyone! It's a great way to blow off steam and enliven the body.


Sweet and Spicy Tantra Puja

with Amara Karuna and Ray Adastra

Breath. Presence. Feeling. Energy.

You are invited to join us in celebrating the the mystery of our energetic bodies, and how we can play with them together!

We will create a safe space for deep connection, respectful sensuality and intimacy, creative movement, play and touch.

You will connect with friends of all genders in a series of guided rituals that encourage you to be fully present as you share tantric energy practices, touch, eye contact, breathing, toning, massage, meaningful conversation, etc.

 Transforming Jealousy Into Love 
With Sumati Sparks

In this workshop, you will be guided through “the Four Pillars of Jealousy Transformation.”
You will learn easy practices, with the support of a loving community, that will help you learn to:
* Feel an abundance of love
* Know that you are a unique soul, worthy of all the love you can imagine
* Find your inner sense of self-ness and truly enjoy being alone at times
* Develop acceptance for what is, never having to feel like a victim again

TANTRA DANCE - Dancing with our Senses

With Art Lashbrook and Marylea Tohler

Deepen your connection with yourself & others through movement while exploring the senses of sight, sound, touch, taste, smell and intuition. Release restraints & fears, find appreciation for your body self & others. Play with intimacy with no agenda, body, heart and soul -- InToMeSee. Experience the Dance of Trust & taking care of your blindfolded partner.

This is a playful and fun program blending dance with our senses.

(clothing optional)


Cultivating Chi 

with Iolani Deva

Learn to circulate your sacred life force energy! Taoist breathing exercises, Chi Kung and the important internal Microcosmic orbit.

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Hug, Hold & Harmonize
with Gary and Anjalisa
Our tantra-flavored harmony experience. This is a participatory workshop that includes:
— Exercises that demonstrate what harmony actually is
— How different combinations of notes create different emotions
— How to find and hold your own part while blending with other voices
— A fun way to improvise, based on Bobby McFerrin's workshops
--- opportunities to sing in harmony while making contact, eyegazing, and singing into each others' ears while holding each other.
 A Cuddle Concert
with Gary and Anjalisa
We take audiences on a relaxing, snuggly harmonic journey.  Let us sing to you while you snuggle!

Cabaret/ Creativity Sharing-

MC: TBA.  Featuring us all!     

One of the highlights of camp!  Come one, come all, and show us more about you! No talent is required - "if you can walk, you can dance; if you can talk, you can sing!"  Sing, dance, read poetry, share art, do a skit...



One of the most fun parts of camp, is the fast and furious auction where you get to donate goods or services for the benefit of La'akea community!  Sell your products, your sexy self as a servant for an hour, or a a visit to your house or a massage!  All in good fun!

Closing Circle

Honoring the experience of the past days, we will connect, reflect, and bid farewell to this incarnation of our community.

Note: Those choosing to stay for the extra 3 day Paradise Afterglow will have a full day of activities this day, after closing circle.

Arrive at the airport the first day hopefully between noon and 4 pm, to set up between 2-5pm. 

Dinner is at 5:30 the first night. Evening Program is 7:00 pm.

Winter Camp Presenters

Amara Karuna is a member of La'akea community and has been studying alternative healing since 1978. Amara taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, a method of peer counseling, for over five years, and has been studying and practicing it since 1983. In 1989 she developed her own approach to peer counseling, called Holistic Peer Counseling, integrating many ideas from RC with spiritual meditation practices, psychic healing, breathwork and body centered techniques.  She has taught hundreds of people to do peer counseling, and has lead several classes and support groups in Hawaii, including groups for sexual healing, parents and leaders.  She is the author of Heartbeat Nurturing Therapy- Healing Our Hearts, A Guide for Friends and Lovers.

She began studying Tantra and Sacred Spot work, a method of sexual healing, on Maui in 2003, and has since studied six different methods of pelvic and sexual healing bodywork. She has been teaching Sacred Pelvic Healing Work for men and women, and leading Tantra Pujas since 2007. See

Art Lashbrook and Marylea Toher blend their rich experience with Ballroom dancing, Sufi dancing, Tantra, spirituality, relationship and open-hearted connecting to create very special and unique dance and Tantra experiences.

They host fun and transformative dance events that include lessons on essential dance partnering skills, creating boundaries and safety, opening hearts and souls, moving together as one, romance, intimacy and sensual expression.

Aniko Willoughby

I've been living at La'akea in community for 12 years. I have many skills in group work and communication, and have facilitated and taught many times, including Holistic Peer Counseling, Authentic Games, and women's circles. 

Audrey Ichida is a New Ventures West Integral Coach®, an Enneagram Teacher, a story teller, a scientist, a dancer, and a mother. All of these identities, held lightly, serve her personal vision to support humanity in building a life we love to live. Teaching the Enneagram, coaching, and living Tantra are ways Audrey honors her daily vow to “nurture vitality in myself and others.” 

Audrey’s facilitating style is rooted in the understanding that everyone is teacher and student simultaneously and knowledge is transmitted through way of being. Audrey’s mastery of the subject material allows for fluid and emergent content design for workshops, based on the unique and present needs of the group. 
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Catherine Kalama Becker is an Associate Professor of Communication at the University of Hawaii, Hilo where she teachers courses in Interpersonal and Family Communication, Sustainability, and Leadership. Her research is on Cultural Transformation. She has facilitated workshops designed to assist people in listening to themselves and one another at the Network for New Culture Camps and in Japan.

She created, Mana Cards: The Power of Hawaiian Wisdom, in order to offer individuals and groups a tool for expanding consciousness and deepening communication while exploring Hawaiian culture and spirituality. Additional influences for this session include HAI, Paul Lowe, and David Schiffman.

Christopher Fuelling (Mystopher)

Theatre director, teacher, and tenor currently based in Los Angeles and Kansas City, the headquarters of his "Theatre of Love," Teatro Korazon, he currently co-directs the SSSTaR (Sacred Sexual Shamanic Theater and Ritual) Initiative with ISTA Lead Facilitator Dawn Cherie.

His projects explore ritual, the ecstatic, and the numinous in widely different contexts from Early Music liturgical reconstructions in European churches to experimental ritual theatre and outrageous rock operas from Bali to Burning Man. He also teaches SSSTaR ritual theatre workshops and Korazonics physical theatre training, as well as presenting his conscious cultural evolution theories and practices. 

 Degrees in anthropology from Princeton and opera directing from California Institute of the Arts, he co-founded and was the original artistic director of the Art Monastery in Italy and The Alchemy in Los Angeles.
Clarity (Carly Be) Berinstein

Clarity is an ex-academic, currently cultivating embodiment practices that help to understand and integrate her education in Neuroscience and Cognition. Since completing her Master's in consciousness studies, she has since begun practicing tantra, the therapeutic use of psychedelics, nonmonogamy and conscious relating, Vipassana meditation, and much more. Her work focuses on the application of current scientific research to the enhancement of embodiment and quality of life for those pursuing their highest states of truth and happiness.
Gary Garrett and Anjalisa Aitken write, record and  perform together as The  Harmony People. They are both  singer-songwriters and lifelong musicians. They met in 2013,  when Anjalisa was in the  audience at a
Gary performance  and started singing harmony full  voice, and have
been touring in  Hawaii and the Western US ever since. You can get to
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Gratitone (Patrick Noble)

As a DJ, musician, and dancer, Gratitone is a passionate being. Soulful and balanced, he has experience leading dancers on a journey to release and letting go. As a facilitator of Authentic Relating games Gratitone brings this same soul, balance, and passion to the fun exploration of humanity and fostering connection.

Iolani Deva

was first introduced to Tantric and Taoist practices in 1978. She has studied many books on these subjects and on spirituality . Her main Tantra teachers were Joan and Thomas Heartfield on Maui who learned from the Muirs and other teachers. She has been teaching her Jade Egg practice that she created herself ( from exercises from different sources) since 2013. She has also led Tantra Pujas since 2007. She comes from her heart and loves to share what wisdom she has learned over the years and to connect with people on a deep heart and soul level. Too see and be seen. Into Me See is divine Intimacy. 

JJ is a trial member at La’akea Permaculture Community and is a seasoned new culture participant. Always searching for ease and clarity, she helps promote opportunities to inspire spontaneous and grounded connections. Prior to moving to the big island of Hawaii in 2017, she worked as registered nurse in Alaska. She has extensive experience in facilitating meetings and educational trainings in healthcare.

 In addition to nursing, JJ’s educational background includes a Bachelor of Arts in Biology from California State University Northridge. 

She enjoys observing nature, permaculture farming, and opportunities for spiritual and emotional growth.

Ray Adastra is a co-organizer of the Oregon Tantra Festival, a professional counselor with experience helping people recover from substance abuse, a personal fitness coach and a professional musician. He supports clients in working with issues of intimacy, polyamory, open relationships, and sexual healing, and can work with couples.

Ray has presented for Sex Positive Portland, Polytopia, and Network for New Culture. Ray has been teaching Sacred Pelvic Healing Massage with Amara Karuna, who developed this technique. He lives in Eugene, OR. He did 2 years of service in Uganda in the Peace Corps.

Raydiance Joy Grace

Raydiance is a passionate Human Potentialist committed to waking herself & others up by transforming everything that is not Love into strategies of how to get our needs for Love met. She has a background as a Producer/Host of Radio/TV shows on consciousness featuring different modalities of meta-physics. Raydiance also is a Shamanic Spiritual Psychologist currently in private practice in Hawaii. She teaches a weekly class on NVC, her other passion, at Hawaiian Sanctuary on the Big Island of Hawaii.

Sumati Sparks is a relationship coach specializing in helping mature people navigate the challenges of ethical non-monogamy.
She is also a jealousy transformation expert.

With 30 years of spiritual practices and 20 years of practicing polyamory and studying relationship & sexuality, Sumati blends a wealth of knowledge & experience with a deep awareness of our connection to the universe.

Tracy Matfin:

Tracy lives what she teaches. As a founding member of La'akea community she practices heart centered communication, authentic relating and emotional sovereignty on a daily basis. She loves the joy of connection and brings this joy into all her offerings.

She brings with her skills in permaculture, edible plants, non-violent communication, Hawaiian Shamanism, vipassana meditation and group facilitation.