Winter Camp Program for 2019
This will give you an idea of what we did! more info on 2020 later on...
See below for Presenters' bios....
Paxus Calta, Max Rivers, Shoshanna Crow, Shezza Walters, Robert Silber, David Bruce Leonard,
Amara Karuna, Miranda Rudegeair, Nathan Marcuzzi, Chris Gongaware, Kris Yates
Tracy Matfin, Kalama Becker, Luke and Anjalisa Aitken, Gary Garrett and more!
Opening Circle / Orientation / Connecting and Intros
We welcome each other into the camp community and go over the nuts-and-bolts of camp culture and logistics. Let's find out who's here and what we have to offer each other! We'll spend much of the time moving around, meeting new folks and deepening existing relationships.
7 Minute Dates:
This fun, interactive, facilitated experience invites campers to pair up for 7 minutes to share more of themselves and get better acquainted. In the course of the activity, there are various criteria offered by the facilitator to encourage campers to explore their edges and take risks around attraction to and assumptions about others.
Early Morning Yoga and Meditation:
A space will be available for this, led by camp attendees,
Morning Dance and Pod Meetings:
We start each morning with a time to dance! And then meet in small groups to check in about your experiences at camp.
We start each camp morning with a circle to re-connect and learn about what's happening that day at camp. We offer appreciations to each other. This is a time to express any concerns or needs of a logistical nature. Announcements are made about karma yoga duties, the day's schedule, and descriptions of the workshops.
is a group process developed at the German community ZEGG to provide a stage for whatever is happening inside the person: one's true motivations, deep feelings, ideas and emotions. The Forum helps facilitate transparency, sharing and clarifying unsolved situations of daily life, and it can be a catalyst for one's own personal growth.
Boundaries: Speaking Truth, Meeting Needs, and Releasing Attachments
with Shoshanna Crow
How many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection? In many ways, “no” is the most daring and intimate response possible – if I can hear your “no”, I can trust your “yes.” We’ll practice the skills of self-awareness, transparency, and non-attachment, which help us find the space of mutually desired connection that is available with each person. We tend to look at boundary setting as ways we cannot connect and rarely see them as having real potential for deeper connection. This workshops intention is to free us up to have boundaries without judgement of our selves or others. It is also designed to help us embrace diversity, and difference and creatively interact with it authentically.
An important and fun orientation to our basic guidelines on relating to each other during camp. If you are a new camper, make sure not to miss it!
Growing Your Connections -
Fun with the land, yourself & each other:
A Sensual Tour of La'akea
with Tracy Matfin
Learn about how we work with nature to create a beautiful and functional environment on our farm. We will walk along our paths and find lots of berries, flowers and leaves to nibble on the way.
with Robert Silber
Consensual Touch is a hot-button issue and this workshop gives you the tools to support yourself and others in navigating touch and consent with confidence. While verbal consent is very useful and important it often fails to address issues that can be better understood and explored non-verbally. While people may have different understandings of other’s words and agreements, we can all be responsible for our own choices when another touches us. We can also utilize the Touch/Pause/Breathe/Feel/Respond/Notice sensitivity sequence when we feel the desire to touch another. This workshop will help you to transcend fear, guilt and shame around touch as we understand that we all want love, pleasure and safety.
Safer Sex Information and Conversations,
and Entering the Temple-
Amara Karuna and others
In a sex-positive and body-honoring community, we have a responsibility to educate ourselves on how to keep ourselves safe while having fun. We’ll go over the latest medical information, and practice talking with community and prospective partners about these issues.
We will explore the guidelines for participating in the Temple space, where we can be openly sensual in a respectful and safe environment. If you have never been to a temple at camp, this workshop is required in order to enter the space.
Going to the temple is completely voluntary. It might include spending time with one or more friends in an intimate way, or sharing in a workshop that has to do with healing, massage, etc. There are guidelines for sharing this space in a way that is safe and comfortable for everyone, and following these guidelines is a requirement for all temple participants.
Temple space opening events will take place for the first 1/2 hour every night. including massage and sensual meditations by Amara, Robert, Shezza and others.
New Culture Relationship Skills:
Lessons Learned from Cultures New and Old
with Max Rivers
It has been said that 90% of what most people believe,they have never thought about even once. Where did these beliefs come from?They are transmitted to us through a process of osmosis: everything we see, hear, are awarded or punished for, communicate to us unconsciously and end up stored as this set of unexamined, often limiting beliefs. These beliefs were not carefully designed to optimize your potential, or create more love or happiness in your life. In fact they weren’t designed with you in mind at all. Despite this, they unconsciously drive many of our behaviors, especially regarding our relationships.
Like many of you, Max Rivers has spent most of his life replacing these "off the rack beliefs" with relationship skills specifically designed to optimize the pleasure and success of relationships for those of us in the lunatic fringe! Come and learn skills gleaned from such countercultural skill sets as: NVC, veganism, Buddhism, Gestalt therapy, sex positivity, Red Tantra, the men and women's movements and many more. Whatever your unique kink, philosophies or predilections maybe, learn how a set of new cultural skills about relationship can set you free to be loved for who you really are, and to share the love which is your birthright.
Men's Circle, and Gender Fluid circle, and Women's Circle:
A Sacred Circle & Check-in for people who enjoy meeting in gender groups, where every persons voice and experience is heard, valued, honored. Where every one speaks uninterrupted and who is held by the group in a solid, trust-building container.
Playful, loving, and gentle exercises to get us more and more comfortable with fully inhabiting our bodies.
Trusting the Goddess:
Random Chaos or Divine Alignment
with Kalama Becker
Ever wonder if your attractions are driven by hormones, childhood wounds, or divine intervention? In this workshop we will explore this question by experimenting with partner selection activities as we practice finding the highest potential with whomever comes into our field.
Whole Body Quadrants of Touch
with Gary, Anjalisa and Luke
In this workshop, we will teach Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and the four types of touch: Give, Accept (Receive), Take, and Allow. There will be a short exercise to practice the different quadrants.
Then we will split into groups of three. Two will give touch while one accepts, and then two will take touch while one allows. Everyone will have a turn in each quadrant. This will be a full body, clothing optional experience. Consent and clear boundaries are absolutely crucial in Betty's work -- it's called the Wheel of Consent, not the Wheel of Touch! There will be careful discussion of boundaries and desires before each segment of the exercise. Please take a shower before the event, and bring something of your own to lie down on.
Gary, Luke and Anjalisa have all been introduced to this work by Betty Martin herself in her workshops and events. For more about the Wheel of Consent, go to bettymartin.org.
Transformational Pleasure Tantra Puja
with Amara Karuna
Pleasure has been proven to have inherently healing effects on our emotional and physical states. It not only feels good, it's good for you! Normally we only let ourselves enjoy sensory delights rarely, as in sexual activity. But most moments have a potential for enjoyment if we open our nervous systems and minds to that focus. Most people have a much larger capacity to sustain suffering than they do to enjoy ecstatic pleasurable states.
Let's lift up our pleasure ceiling!
Working in rotational triads, we will weave a wonderful web of connection, with singing, sounding, movement, conscious touching, snuggle meditations, hair brushing, hand or foot kissing, and massage as possibilities. We will practice the arts of deep listening, giving appreciations and loving warmth.
You will get a turn asking for the kind of pleasure you want, while at the same time hearing affirmations that you have designed for your partners to repeat to you. You will work with many people and make new connections.
We will not be having any specifically sexual activities in our group time together. This is a fully clothed, non sexual yet sensual event. Come immerse yourself in an evening of oxytocin generating activities! And boost up your normal "set point" to one of more abundance of love, relaxation, connection and pleasure!
What's Great About Poly!
with Max Rivers
Loving multiple people at the same time! Having all the advantages of an ethical, monogamous relationship AND additional relationships of any kind with as many people as make sense. Defining (or redesigning) each of your relationships to be a perfect custom fit for what is actually true about the way that you feel about each of these people.
This is just the beginning of an explanation of our real life experience being a poly triad. And yet, at almost every polyamory conference or workshop we go to (outside of Endless Poly Summer) we hear about how hard polyamory is. If you went by the press that poly has, it would seem polyamory is just a synonym for jealousy!
In this Give-And-Take workshop, we will describe how our embodied NVC (Non-Violent Communication) based polyamorous relationship works. We will talk about: the importance of needs-based negotiation, the delights and responsibilities of being a pivot, the care and feeding of metamours (your partner's lover) and and the joys that transparency and vulnerability bring in intimate relating.
We will talk about how we use New Culture as our cultural paradigm, and ENVC as our communication process. We will invite other polyamorous pods to talk about their successes, and poly-curious individuals and couples to ask questions and pose challenges.
Hug, Hold & Harmonize
with Gary and Anjalisa
Tantric intimacy & harmonizing have a lot in common. We feel that harmony is a powerful metaphor for love, encompassing all kinds of relationships. In this fun workshop, you will experience exercises that explore the power, magic & basics of vocal harmony, while engaging in fun touch with others. We will be singing to ourselves & one another in varied combinations with the intention to learn the following:
-- What harmony actually is
-- How different combinations of notes create different emotions
-- How to find and hold your own part while blending with other voices
-- A fun way to improvise.
The workshop is appropriate for all levels of experience.
with Kristina Yates
Learn skills for healing of old hurts and life maintenance. In this workshop we will learn powerful yet simple skills for assisting each other to heal from past traumas as well as maintain our day to day mental health. These skills are extremely important for creating and nurturing healthy relationships.
These isolating difficult times we are living in more than ever require us to listen well to each other in order to maintain equanimity as we navigate day to day life.
We will experience how good it feels to both give and receive support.
| The Relationship Sanctuary|
with David Bruce Leonard and Jodi Baygood
Sexual relationships are the supreme human paradox. We require them for personal happiness and life satisfaction, but they can suddenly turn on us and inflict great chaos and emotional pain. In order to navigate our romantic partners, we need to embody a profoundly open heart while maintaining a vigilant self awareness and impeccable boundaries. The Relationship Sanctuary is a model for creating healthy and mutually nurturing relationships. Within the Relationship Sanctuary, each individual in the relationship is a Sovereign and has their own Personal Sanctuary.
The Personal Sanctuary is the character and structure of the individual whether they are in relationship with someone else or not. Within the Personal Sanctuary, each individual is responsible for their own quality of life. Each person agrees to “do their own work”, as well as to be accountable, self confronting, and self soothing. A healthy relationship is dependent on the transparency and unwavering self honesty that make up a Personal Sanctuary. Without strong and clear Personal Sanctuaries the Relationship Sanctuary cannot thrive.
The Relationship Sanctuary is the area of clear agreements between the two sovereign individuals who are relationship. In the Relationship Sanctuary, each person’s job is to increase the quality of life for the other person without enabling them. Within the Relationship Sanctuary the other person’s happiness is their goal.
with Miranda Rudegeair
A beautiful time to allow your body to move and be moved by the ecstatic tunes played by your DJ, Miranda Groove! There is nothing required of you other than to do what feels good for you - whether that be stretching, being still, dancing or drawing circles in the air with you butt. This is a chance for you to design your own experience.
External Body De-armoring
with Nathan Marcuzzi
We have all had our share traumatic experiences: watching mother-father divorce, someone close to us die, shamed for our sexual desires or orientation, feeling abandoned, manipulated or violated. It is my experience that during these poignant times rather than allow our feelings to move through us we often attempt to repress or avoid them in turn building what is called 'body armor' which ultimately hinders our life force energy from flowing freely throughout our body.
Body De-armoring is an ancient intuitional practice designed to help release this armor. It is a somatic experience which has a profound effect on our emotional and energetic bodies. It is powerful, transformational bodywork similar to pressure point massage which encourages our life force energy to once again move autonomously throughout our bodies.
Cabaret/ Creativity Sharing-
MC: Paxus. Featuring us all!
One of the highlights of camp! Come one, come all, and show us more about you! No talent is required - "if you can walk, you can dance; if you can talk, you can sing!" Sing, dance, read poetry, share art, do a skit...
One of the most fun parts of camp, is the fast and furious auction where you get to donate goods or services for the benefit of La'akea community! Sell your products, your sexy self as a servant for an hour, or a a visit to your house or a massage! All in good fun!
Closing Circle -
Honoring the experience of the past days, we will connect, reflect, and bid farewell to this incarnation of our community.
Note: Those choosing to stay for the extra 3 day Paradise Afterglow will have a full day of activities this day, after closing circle.
Arrive at the airport the first day hopefully between noon and 4 pm, to set up between 2-5pm. Dinner is at 5:30 the first night. Evening Program is 7:15 pm.
7-8 am Yoga & Meditation 8-8:45 am Breakfast 8:45 am Dancing 9-9:30 am
1-2 pm Lunch 2-3:30 pm Free time or Open Space 3:30-5:30pm Workshop 6-7 pm Dinner 7:15-8:30pm
Amara Karuna: has been studying alternative healing since 1978. Amara taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, a method of peer counseling, for over five years, and has been studying and practicing it since 1983. In 1989 she developed her own approach to peer counseling, called Holistic Peer Counseling, integrating many ideas from RC with spiritual meditation practices, psychic healing, breathwork and body centered techniques. She has taught hundreds of people to do peer counseling, and has lead several classes and support groups in Hawaii, including groups for sexual healing, parents and leaders. She is the author of Heartbeat Nurturing Therapy- Healing Our Hearts, A Guide for Friends and Lovers.
She began studying Tantra and Sacred Spot work, a method of sexual healing, on Maui in 2003, and has since studied six different methods of pelvic and sexual healing bodywork. She has been teaching Sacred Pelvic Healing Work for men and women, and leading Tantra Pujas since 2007. See http://karuna-sacredloving.com
Catherine Kalama Becker is an Associate Professor of Communication at the University of Hawaii, Hilo where she teachers courses in Interpersonal and Family
Communication, Sustainability, and Leadership. Her research is on Cultural Transformation. She has facilitated workshops designed to assist people in listening to themselves and one another at the Network for New Culture Camps and in Japan.
She created, Mana Cards: The Power of Hawaiian Wisdom, in order to offer individuals and groups a tool for expanding consciousness and deepening communication while exploring Hawaiian culture and spirituality. Additional influences for this session include HAI, Paul Lowe, and David Schiffman.
Chris is an Authentic Relating Facilitator and Professional Coach on the island of Oahu. It is part of his life's mission to help people create greater connection to themselves and others. He is the co-founder of Authentic Hawaii. Chris believes our acceptance and welcoming of everything is the starting place for anything.
David Bruce Leonard is the creator of Rivers of Love Ceremonial Therapeutic Bodywork for Lovers. He is an acupuncturist, tropical plant medicine specialist, martial artist, and author.
David believes in the innate somatic intelligence of the body and the power of our brain and nervous system to heal us and our planet. He is fascinated by human behavior, including sexuality, the potential resolution of trauma, and the genius of indigenous cultures.
A practitioner of traditional Chinese medicine, medical herbalist, acupuncturist, martial artist, and author, David has engaged in sacred sexuality and Daoist practices for all of his adult life.
He is the founder of the Earth Medicine Institute, whose mission is the reclamation of the sane core of our humanity and creation of a healthier planet for all species. His work encompasses many disciplines and is designed to “connect the dots” between biology, medicine, history, anthropology, psychology, evolution, spirituality, and the human nervous system.
Author of How to Worship the Goddess and Keep Your Balls: A Man’s Guide to Sacred Sex and Medicine at Your Feet: Healing Plants of the Hawaiian Kingdom, and Wild Wisdom: Listening from the Heart of Nature, he studies, lectures, and teaches internationally.
He refers to his sacred sexuality classes for couples (called “Rivers of Love”) as Sacred Yes and his self protection classes (called “FAST Defense”) as Sacred No. These ideas are drawn from his personal belief that “You can’t say Yes if you can’t say No”.
His Sacred Yes • Sacred No work focuses on the the creation and nurturance of the healthy masculine and feminine principles that abide in all of us.
Luke Aitken has been trained as a community mediator and group facilitator, studied group dynamics and NLP with Michael Grinder, was at one time Reality Therapy Certified, and is currently studying with Roshi Jun Po Denis Kelly to teach the Mondozen process. He's lived on the big island for 34 years, takes care of two native forest farms in south Kona, and owns and operates Rock Star Masonry. Currently, he's involved with the Mankind Project, and attends HAI workshops and NFNC events whenever possible.
is the lead mediator at TheMarriageMediator.net where he pioneered marriage mediation. He has developed a six-session process to help couples learn how to use NVC, Nonviolent Communication to navigate their difficult conversations. He is available at his office in Philadelphia or worldwide over video conferencing. He is the author of a book about his work with couples entitled, “Loving Conflict” available at Amazon.com.
Miranda has worked for over 13 years as a holistic personal trainer with a passion for DANCE. She has taught and studied various forms but when she discover the GROOVE, she was able to put all of her knowledge and expertise as a holistic trainer into a mind-blowing dance experience for the heart and soul. She is currently one of the lead educators and presenters for The World GROOVE Movement, which has facilitators and DANCE floors in over 15 countries. She has been invited to present and teach The GROOVE Dance Experience to kids and adults all over the world with her current focus in Australia and Hawaii. Miranda is passionate about honesty and telling yourself the truth and has playful and creative way of inspiring others to be authentic and true to themselves.
My journey began in 1995 when I was introduced to Hatha yoga and meditation. It was eight years later however, in 2003, when I felt called to broaden my experiences. I began by exploring various avenues of spirituality from Kundalini based teachings in Kathmandu, Vipassana trainings in Vancouver, followed by my initiation in Reiki (Levels 1 & 2) in Northeastern Thailand. I was committed to these practices for years until they began feeling stagnant. This stagnancy is what ultimately led me towards my current path.
In 2015, I introduced myself to Tantra (neo & paleo), Conscious Relating and Sacred Sexuality. While being introduced to these three powerful paths, I experienced De-armouring and what I call Energetic Ecstatic Experience. Both of these experiences completely transformed how I view life and sexuality. I awoke to the reality that the alignment of ones' life force or sexual energy could bring great awakening. I have never felt so empowered knowing that my true essence - my authentic, invariable nature is within me here and now; that all universal greatness and beauty is accessible at any given moment.
Paxus Calta is a revolutionary and heretic disguised a story teller and a communard. A believer that modesty is dangerous and that failure should be celebrated, Calta is a reckless propagandist and an relentless recruiter. They can be found in close proximity to imminent calamity.
Robert Silber, M.S. , LMT
In addition to founding the Institute for Conscious Sensuality (ICS) Robert has founded the Lolia Place Ecovillage and the Hawaii Tantra Festival. Robert has taught with many of the leading sacred sexuality teachers around the world. He served on the advisory board of International School of Temple Arts, was part of the founding of One Taste community, and have been involved with the Network for New Culture and ZEGG communities. He has a MS in Permaculture, massage license specializing in Hawaiian Lomi massage.
He provides conscious sensuality coaching, trainings and mentoring via phone/email/in person. He has a background in Zen Buddhist meditation, yoga, Re-Evaluation Counseling, and Non-Violent Communication. Robert travels internationally to lead workshops, trainings and events, through http://conscioussensuality.eu/. He is currently finishing a book on conscious sensuality, community and sustainability.
Shezza Walters is a Tantra teacher, Love coach, and sensuous touch magician. She has a passion for helping people to love all parts of themselves and find freedom within. She is a Tantra teacher who combines the spirituality and the sexy in an innovative and fun way. She loves teaching the art of sensual touch and Tantric massage. She helps people connect to their own heart, find more pleasure in their bodies, and have more fulfilling intimacy with others while seeing the Divine Beauty in all of life.
Shoshannah Crow is a mother, lover, facilitator, and intuitive guide, fiercely dedicated to self inquiry. She was part of the GoddessIs Women's Ritual Theater Collective for 10 years. The group used consensus in all decisions and collaborated with the audience to create theater that combined life experience, ritual, song, and social awareness
Since 2010, she has been a "Zegg Forum" facilitator and has trained individuals in communities such as Harbin Hotsprings and Nevada City CoHousing. She has hosted "Free Love Salons" and co-authored Loving Freely (excerpts from an open Marriage) with Lawrence Siskind. She facilitates "Oil Dances" (a group process of self discovery with skin oil, word, and music) and creates non-verbal spaces for groups. She is interested in environments that alter the senses and allow for new ways of being.
She is a "New Culture" rebel who believes that it is not her mission to change the world, but to love it and get out of the way, 'cause magic is afoot!
Tracy Matfin: studied environmental science at U.C. Berkely, and went on to be a high school science teacher for a decade, instigating as many progressive projects into her curriculum as allowed, her love of nature coming out in her leading the hiking club on many weekend hikes and restoration projects. With many lessons learned from that adventure she set about creating community here at La'akea. She brings with her skills in permaculture, edible plants, non-violent communication, Hawaiian Shamanism, vipassana meditation and group facilitation.